Have you ever heard the saying, “Certain things get better with age”? That’s definitely true when dating older men. For younger women, dating a man 10 to 20 years older than her can give her more than simply great experiences or memories.
These relationships can turn into something serious and be a solid foundation for a long-term commitment, primarily because of how younger women’s outlooks and characteristics often complement those of an older man.
An older man and younger woman relationship is not only one of the most common motifs in dating, it’s also one of the most popular.
Dating older men can be an experience unto itself and comes with perks you may have never imagined before. Of course, there’s something romantic, alluring and even reassuring about dating a man who’s quite a bit older than you. These men tend to be way more well-established and courteous, they’re chivalrous and you’ll never hear the words, “let’s hang out” ever again.
Straightforward and assertive, older men act with intention and focus because they’re usually busy living thriving lives with great jobs they’re passionate about. They’ve spent enough time in the dating world to know exactly what they like and what turns them off. You’ll never be in an unsure space or gray area when dating an older man because they have neither the time nor the inclination to play games.
The May-December romance (relationship between a younger woman and an older man) is as common in Kampala as it is in your home town. It might not be because of only money, there are other few factors given out by the ones who are in it.
It turns out the reasons have less to do with romance and more to do with good old evolution.
This website took a survey to find out why young women date older men
According to one lady based in Soroti who preferred anonymity, she says older men are established in a way that they have got money and would like to settle down with a serious young woman. She adds that these men have seen everything in relationships and now tired of all the games.
“Let’s face it; most women look for men who can support/contribute to them financially. It is all about practicality. When you start a family, for example, it is important that the man is able to provide security. A self-sufficient woman will not easily settle for anyone who doesn’t earn at all. For some women in the poorer regions however, they seek out men who are capable of supporting himself because they are the ideal partner. They will not settle for a man who has no job because life is already difficult for them as it is and can’t afford additional mouths to feed,” she said.
She added: “Now, from a logical perspective, a typical guy in his late 20s will have fewer savings, less wealth, and fewer assets accumulated compared to what he’ll become 20 years later. That is considering that he continued to work and save as he gets older. In this regard, an older man has enough assets and money in the bank to support a family. This is why some women go for men who have stable jobs instead of those who are still generally starting with their career when they are planning to start a family”
“I am not saying that women should depend on their partner financially, no. In fact, I admire women who stand up for themselves and accomplish a lot of things on their own. But, some societies consider it ideal for women to stay at home and take care of the kids and for the husband to work to support the family”.
Scovia Akiror on social media says older men provide them with enough security. Older men represent socially valued attributes that lead his younger partner to want to bond with him
“With age, most men acquire greater power in their career, thus possess more wealth and security. Whether it’s a home, more money, or other luxuries. This VIP status is extremely attractive to a younger woman,” she said.
But before we label these women gold-diggers, it’s important to note a question that was raised in a study done by St. Mary’s University’s (Halifax) Sara Skentelbery and Darren Fowler on whether young women looking for the security in an older man may have lacked that security from their fathers growing up. While their findings didn’t suggest this was actually a huge reasoning behind May-December hook-ups, it’s something to consider nonetheless.
Then, of course, there’s the whole evolution thing. Back in our evolutionary past, men generally kicked the bucket in their twenties and thirties. If a man lived well into his sixties—well, he hit the genetic lottery and thus was deemed highly desirable.
Another theory states that both a man’s longevity and his bank account make him attractive to a younger woman. The fact that he’s lived a long time and accrued wealth is like hitting two birds with one stone.
A one Elizabeth Natukunda says that older men embody the “Male Gaze”. She says that because women are raised with internalizing the “male gaze”—a masculine, heterosexual perspective that presents and represents women as sexual objects for the pleasure of the male viewer—then “we see ourselves reflected in our partner’s eyes. If our partner sees us as young and hot, we see ourselves as young and hot. If he sees us as aging and undesirable, we internalize that, too,” she said. “A man is only as young as the woman he feels, but a woman is only as young as a man sees her to be.”
So if a woman believes her value decreases as she ages, she might be attracted to the older man who will see her as perpetually younger and, thus, more attractive.
The bottom line: relationship fulfillment depends on a number of unique factors that sometimes science just can’t explain. Perhaps there’s a genetic, psychological reason why you’re more drawn to a George Clooney than a Chris Pratt, or maybe you’re just a perfect fit—science be damned.
